Midlife brings with it a precious gift: wisdom. By the time you reach your 40s, you’ve amassed a wealth of life experiences and invaluable lessons. In this article, I will share the insights that have guided me on my journey towards living my best life. Whether you find yourself in midlife already or on the cusp of it, I hope that these positive words of wisdom will ignite a spark within you, propelling you toward a more fulfilling and enriched existence.
#12 Be yourself, everyone else is already taken
by Oscar Wilde
I remember when I first started working in corporate America. I wanted so desperately to fit in. I thought that if I acted and looked a certain way, people would accept me even more. So, I would stay quiet in meetings, agree with whatever leaders said and asked and I even straightened my hair to fit in.
Reflecting on the past, it’s astonishing how much I’ve transformed. Now, I prioritize speaking up and expressing my thoughts, recognizing that it’s an integral part of my role. I’ve fully embraced my natural curly hair and abandoned the conventional corporate appearance, opting instead for an authentic style that truly embodies my identity, the real me.
Words to live by: Don’t try to be someone you’re not just to fit in. Embrace your uniqueness and be true to yourself, because that’s what makes you stand out. Plus, when you embrace yourself fully, you’ll attract the right people and opportunities into your life.
#11 You can’t win the lottery if you don’t play
Years ago I heard this quote while watching one of my favorite movies “Eat, Pray, Love,” and years later it still resonates with me.
How can you possibly win the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket? Seems so simple.
You can apply this logic to just about every area of your life. If you don’t write that book, you’ll never be a New York Times Best Seller. If you don’t apply for that job or promotion, then you won’t have that job.
Words to live by: Sometimes we are afraid to take risks or try new things because of the fear of failure. However, we can never succeed if we don’t even try in the first place. Don’t let fear hold you back from achieving your dreams. And, buy that lottery ticket! You never know, you might just win.
#10 It’s not about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain
No one has the perfect life, even though it may appear that way on social media.
Life is unpredictable and there will always be challenges and obstacles that come our way. But instead of waiting for things to get better, we should learn to adapt and make the best out of any situation.
For example, if it rains on your outdoor picnic, don’t cancel the whole thing. Embrace the rain and have a memorable dance party with your friends!
Words to live by: Don’t let tough times bring you down. Instead, learn to find joy in the midst of chaos and make the best out of every situation. Life is about learning and growing, not waiting for the perfect moment. Dance in the rain and make your own sunshine.
#9 Hope is not a good strategy
We all have hopes and dreams, but they won’t become a reality unless we take action. Simply hoping for something to happen is not enough. We need to actively work towards our goals and dreams to make them come true.
For example, if you hope to travel the world someday, start saving money and making a plan. Don’t just wait for it to magically happen.
Words to live by: Hope can give us motivation and inspiration, but it shouldn’t be relied upon as a strategy for success. Create an action plan and work towards your goals with determination. That’s the key to making your hopes and dreams a reality.
#8 If you don’t sacrifice for what you want, what you want becomes the sacrifice
I recently heard Grant Cardone say this and it made a lasting impression on me. A year ago, I knew I wanted to start a blog, but with the demands of work and parenting, I couldn’t imagine starting something that would require more of my time, which was already scarce. But, then I realized that if I didn’t make sacrifices to get my blog up, it would never happen.
To make time for my blog, I had to get better at prioritizing my time. I had to give up some things like watching TV and scrolling through social media mindlessly. I even woke up earlier and stayed up late to write. And while it was a sacrifice at first, it eventually became a fulfilling and rewarding experience. Writing is now my creative outlet.
We all have things we want in life – a better job, a bigger house, more time with loved ones. But oftentimes, we aren’t willing to make the necessary sacrifices to achieve these things.
We must be willing to give up something to get something even greater in return. Whether it’s sacrificing your free time for extra work hours or cutting back on unnecessary expenses, sacrifices are a necessary part of achieving our goals.
Words to live by: Don’t let the fear of sacrifice hold you back from going after what you want in life. Remember, the things we truly desire will require some sort of sacrifice to attain them. Embrace it and see how much your life can change for the better.
#7 You can’t do it all, nor should you try to
So many moms in particular try to do it all. We get the title “mom” and all of a sudden we spawn a cape and superhero powers. But often this relentless pursuit becomes our downfall, leading to burnout. I’ve learned that it’s okay to ask for help and delegate tasks.
I used to think asking for help was a sign of weakness, but now I understand that it actually takes strength and humility to do so. It also creates opportunities for others to showcase their talents and capabilities. By delegating tasks, we can focus on what truly matters and achieve our goals more effectively.
In my household, every member takes part in maintaining cleanliness and organization. Additionally, I schedule a cleaning crew to visit every two weeks. When it comes to everyday tasks, if I lack time or simply don’t feel like it, I have no qualms about ordering food instead of cooking or having groceries delivered instead of going shopping. When I need to get things done for my blog, I outsource it. At work, if I have limited bandwidth to take on a new project, I delegate it to a capable colleague.
Words to live by: Asking for help and delegating tasks does not make you weak, it makes you smarter and more efficient. It also allows others to shine and grow. Don’t be afraid to let go of the reins and trust in others, even if it means giving up some control.
#6 Surround yourself with positive influences
This may be a tough pill to swallow for some, but I have learned to distance myself from negative people… in my personal and professional life.
You know that friend who’s always talking about how everything is going wrong and how nothing ever goes their way? Or that coworker who constantly complains about their workload and spreads negativity throughout the office? Avoid them. They will only bring you down and drain your energy.
The people we spend time with can greatly impact our mindset and outlook on life. Negativity breeds negativity, so it’s important to surround ourselves with positive and uplifting people who will support and encourage us. This can be friends, family members, mentors, or even online communities.
Words to live by: Surround yourself with people who uplift you, motivate you, and inspire you to be your best self. Don’t let negative influences hold you back from reaching your full potential. Choose your inner circle wisely and watch how it positively impacts your life.
#5 You will never become rich working a 9-to-5 job
This is one of those wise sayings that may seem discouraging at first, but it’s actually quite empowering. It reminds us that there are other avenues to create wealth and achieve success outside of a traditional 9-to-5 job.
This doesn’t mean we should quit our jobs and start chasing get-rich-quick schemes, but it does encourage us to think outside the box and explore different opportunities for growth and success.
The era of dedicating 30+ years at a company to secure a pension is long gone.
In today’s unpredictable job market, the threat of unemployment looms just a Zoom call away.
So, why limit yourself to a single income source for your livelihood?
That’s where side hustles and investments come in. They provide you with the opportunity to diversify your income streams and take control of your financial future. Embrace the freedom and flexibility they offer, and pave your way to financial independence.
Your regular job should adequately cover your basic living expenses while also providing the resources to pursue your side hustles. These additional income streams can take the form of investments, freelance work, selling products or services, or any other ventures that align with your passions and skills. By diversifying your sources of income, you reduce your dependence on a single stream and significantly enhance your prospects for financial success.
Words to live by: Rather than merely working for money, strive to make money work for you. Embrace the willingness to take risks and venture down diverse paths in pursuit of success. You never know where these paths may lead. So, instead of confining yourself to a conventional 9-to-5 job, aspire to achieve financial independence and freedom.
#4 Put your mask on first before you help others
Whenever you board a plane, flight attendants instruct you to secure your mask before assisting others in the event of an emergency. This seemingly straightforward yet deeply meaningful instruction also applies to life’s journey.
To be able to help others and make a difference, you must first take care of yourself. When it comes to finances, prioritize your financial future before assisting others. By attaining financial independence, you’ll possess the means to support both yourself and those in your circle.
Applying this principle to self-care is equally important. Prioritizing your health and overall well-being should be your foremost concern before attending to others. Only when you are in a good state can you genuinely provide assistance and support to those around you.
So go ahead and take a mental health day for yourself or block time on your calendar each day while at work to take a 15-minute walk outside. Be on top of your game when it comes to getting annual check-ups and physicals. If something’s off with your body, get it checked out immediately. And if your friends or loved ones are struggling financially, remember that you can help them more effectively when you have your own financial house in order.
Words to live by: Taking care of yourself first allows you to be in a better position to help others. By prioritizing your financial and personal well-being, you can build a solid foundation for your future and be able to support those around you when they need it most.
#3 Learn from failures and embrace new opportunities
The job you didn’t get, the company you tried the launch, the idea for a book you never wrote, the relationship that didn’t work out – they all seem like failures at first. However, these experiences are valuable opportunities for learning and growth.
Throughout your life, you will encounter numerous failures and setbacks. These experiences may initially seem disheartening, but they offer invaluable lessons. Instead of getting discouraged, embrace your failures and use them as stepping stones towards growth and success.
Words to live by: Failure is not the end, but a chance to learn and become better. Embrace your failures and use them as fuel for growth.
#2 Continuous learning is the key to personal growth
Life is a journey of learning, and it never truly ends. Whether it’s through formal education, reading books, or gaining practical experience, there’s always something new to learn.
Continuous learning not only expands your knowledge but also opens up new perspectives and opportunities. It allows you to adapt to change, stay relevant in a fast-paced world, and continuously improve yourself.
Words to live by: The day you stop learning is the day you stop growing. Embrace every opportunity to learn and never be afraid of trying something new. Success comes from constantly challenging yourself and striving for personal growth.
#1 Gratitude is the key to happiness
These days, it’s easy to get caught up in the rat race and forget about what truly matters. Every day, just take a moment to pause and think about the things you’re grateful for. It could be as simple as having a roof over your head or a good meal on the table. Reflect on the blessings of good health, a safe environment, and the privilege of having a job. Embrace the deep gratitude that comes with acknowledging these precious parts of life.
Practicing gratitude not only helps you appreciate what you have, but it also brings a sense of peace and contentment.
Words to live by: Gratitude is not just about being thankful for what you have; it’s about finding joy in the little things and cultivating a positive mindset. By focusing on the good in your life, you can attract more positivity and happiness into your life.
Life is a journey, and it’s filled with ups and downs. But by living each day with an open mind, a grateful heart, and a desire to learn, we can make the most out of this beautiful gift called life.
Embrace these lessons, ideas and positive words of wisdom and apply them to all aspects of your life. Leverage them to navigate through the highs and lows with grace and resilience to live life to the fullest.
I’d love to hear from you, what are some words, phrases or quotes that you live by?